The Natrum Bromatum woman has a delusion that she will be assaulted during a love relationship. She has got an intense fear of the opposite sex. She is very scared of having a relationship. She experiences every gesture of the other person as rape.
It is a great remedy for women who have been raped. After the rape the woman may feel fear of the opposite sex. She withdraws at the very touch of a male. Every time she has sex, she relives the rape.
However, it is not necessary for a woman to have been raped in order to receive a prescription of Natrum Bromatum. Young girls are often afraid in their first relationship. This may happen if they have grown up in an environment where there were fights between their father and mother and where the mother played the role of the victim or the father had a lot of extramarital relationships and their mother accused him in front of the children.
Thus, these girls have the tendency to have platonic relationships; they do not allow their partner to come too close sexually to avoid making love. Some may have dyspareunia. Natrum Bromatum will prove to be a great remedy in such cases.
In other cases the choice of men (or women) is such, so that the fear of rape will not be triggered in the relationship. For example, if we discover that the male friends a girl has had so far were homosexuals, we must think of Natrum Bromatum. Masculinity scares a Natrum Bromatum woman. She chooses passive, soft men or homosexuals. However, she gets easily bored in the relationship. She looks for an “unreachable” man. However, when she meets one, she is afraid of him.
Natrum Bromatum will prove very useful in cases of homosexuality, which are due to a man’s fear of the opposite sex. The fear of women leads a man to search for homosexual relationships. (The same of course applies to women as well).
NATRUM BROMATUM CASE
A 45 year old woman, a teacher, married, with two adolescent daughters, came with the following complaints:
* Anxiety manifested with sweating and a burning feeling.
* Exanthemas with itching and redness.
* Depressive mood.
* Likes icy and sour foods, eggs and fats.
* Feels better by the sea.
* Deteriorates when it is hot.
During the interview she was quite cautious being particularly careful in what she said and how she said it. She mentioned that she was introverted, always cautious with others; that she did not easily share her problems with others. She mentioned that she often sighed and felt sad. When I asked her at some point if there were any events that had particularly affected her life, she burst into tears and revealed to me a very traumatic experience; that her father had raped her when she was 14 years old.
She got very scared by the incident. She always tried to avoid him. During her adolescence, she had a few opportunities to have a boyfriend but she never took advantage of these opportunities because she was afraid. She has an older brother who was very strict with her and she was very much afraid of him. She also has an older sister and she suspected that her father had raped her as well.
When she was at University, she met a friend of her brother, whom she liked a lot but they never had a relationship because she was afraid that her brother might find out about it. After that she met the man who was later to become her husband. Their relationship was initially purely platonic. It was a long time before they made love, because she was afraid to make love.
Although her husband treated her well, she never told him about her traumatic experience. As time went by, she began to feel that there was something missing in her relationship with her husband. Later, her love for her brother’s friend was rekindled, though she has never expressed her feelings to him. She often rings him, but feels guilty about this afterwards.
During our interview she gave me the following answers:
QUESTION: What’s your memory like?
ANSWER: I clearly remember nearly everything that happened a long time ago. Events and feelings are vivid in my mind. I mostly remember everything that was emotionally charged.
QUESTION: In what areas would you say you have a poor memory?
ANSWER: I forget little things easily. I have to think hard, to talk to myself if I don’t want to forget appointments, telephone calls, the shopping.
QUESTION: Do you make mistakes?
ANSWER: Mistakes? Spelling mistakes? When I write something I know what I don’t know and I look up words in dictionaries. Other mistakes? Of course I make mistakes. Doesn’t everybody? Serious mistakes? The most serious mistake is that I was born … I was “a mistake”. I make mistakes. I become aware of most of them and I try to correct them; the ones that can be corrected of course. Some things can’t be corrected because what is done can not be undone.
QUESTION: What mistakes do you make when you speak, read or write?
ANSWER: When I am irritable or stressed out I mix up my words so I make mistakes when I speak. I have to be very absent-minded in order to make spelling mistakes. When I write I think about how I am writing.
QUESTION: Are you anxious or afraid? What about?
ANSWER: I am very anxious. Sometimes it is unbearable. I make heavy weather of things. I feel I have got very little time. I have the feeling I will never catch up with things. So I give up and I don’t make good use of my spare time. At work I don’t waste a minute. I finish work and I don’t realize how the time has passed. When I go somewhere I am afraid I might be late and I begin to feel hot and sweaty. I feel strange, my heart beats very quickly and I want to go back home. Everyday life at home and any preparation for a trip, a party or anything makes me feel anxious. Maybe because I am responsible for everything. During the evenings my anxiety increases. I feel anxious especially during dinner and it gets worse when I get ready for bed. I rush to wash as if I am going to miss a train or as if my seat will be taken. So at these times I get all hot and bothered, I start itching, I get red spots and I breathe heavily. I rush to bed as if I am being chased and it’s a long time before I calm down. The evenings are very difficult for me. Am I afraid? I am very much afraid. I am afraid of death. Maybe not so much for myself, as for … death in general. Some childhood experiences and things I heard in the village are out of all proportion within myself and I am afraid of irrational things. Ever since I was little I have been afraid of dead people; even the ones who loved me a lot. I was afraid and I am still afraid to go to my grandmother’s house alone. When it is dark it would be inconceivable for me to go there. When I go past a house where somebody has died I am shaking. I often dream of dead people and I wake up feeling ill. When I am in the village and the room is dark in my grandmother’s house I shake until I have turned on the light to see what is going on. When I am there, I always sleep with the light on but in my house here I don’t.
When I was little I used to be afraid of my father, but not very much. Then I was afraid of my brother. I was afraid of everything he did not approve of. I used to be very anxious and scared, in case I got back home late or in case he saw me talking to some man … I couldn’t even talk to a friend.
I was also afraid of men. Especially the older ones. I am still afraid of them. They have within them, of course not all of them, the cruel experience of life, the selfishness, the instincts … Now I am afraid of my husband, of his reactions. I am afraid of tomorrow. I want something and I am afraid to ask him. I want us to go somewhere and I am afraid to say it. In the past I didn’t use to feel this way. Now I am afraid of everything, even though I don’t always admit it. I write and I cry and I am afraid.
QUESTION: When you are anxious, what physical symptoms do you have?
ANSWER: When I am anxious, my heart beats very fast. Sometimes I get all hot and bothered. Other times I have a lump like a tangerine in my throat. More often I come out in red spots.