Elaine and Baby Pulsatilla, I mean, Shana!
If you have children, you’ll be wanting to keep this remedy near by, because it will cure most of the ailments that children have–measles, chicken pox, mumps, colds, conjunctivitis…it’s because most children “are” Pulsatilla! By that we mean, they have the Pulsatilla personality, the Pulsatilla mentals and emotionals, which become exaggerated when they’re sick.
Think of the typical sick child: clingy, sad, wanting to be held and reassured; this is the essence of Pulsatilla. So no matter what the illness is, when you see the neediness, the big sorrowful eyes, the pitiful crying, and the amelioration from being held and reassured, you can be certain that Pulsatilla will do the job.
What is Pulsatilla anyway? It’s a delicate flower. It sits on a very fine stem that is tossed and turned whichever way the wind blows and hence, is called the “Wind Flower”. This tells you all you need to know about the Pulsatilla personality. This flower lacks strength, just like the small child who must depend on his parents for protection.
The theme of Pulsatilla is to latch on to a strong supportive adult and not let go.
Pulsatilla children will become anxiety-ridden as soon as they can’t see the parent anymore–as soon as the parent is no longer in sight. They won’t last long in this situation and will start searching to make sure the parent is still there and hasn’t left them alone–Fear Of Abandonment, in short, fear of being forsaken, and so Pulsatilla’s life focus is on the whereabouts of mom, and does mom still love him? How much? Is there an interloper stealing the attention and affection of mom? So, you can gather that these children are jealous, stingy, won’t share (can’t bear to suffer a loss) and may ask, “Do you love me?” over and over again!
Their security is their primary focus, so they are ever-mindful of where the parent is, and that he, the child, is getting the attention and acknowledgment–the love–that will allow him to relax and feel safe. They can’t tolerate the smallest criticism or reprimand; for them, it means they are no longer loved. They will persist in some form of attention-seeking behavior until they are satisfied that they are again the center of existence, the sole object of Mom and Dad’s affection. Some of this attention-getting behavior might seem quite obnoxious! Pouting, whining, breaking things to be noticed, creating a scene, feeling sorry for themselves, behaving irritably, and so on. They won’t let a slight, snub or rebuff go by. It won’t be allowed to stand.
As long as Pulsatilla feels loved, she can be perfectly content basking in the serenity of parental affection. They will be joyful and charming.
If the parents fight, this will be very frightening for the child and he will play peace-maker to try to get them to reconcile. They cannot bear disharmony.
Strangers will frighten them at first but as soon as they get the idea that the stranger is safe, they will become the stranger’s best friend–bringing toys to show off, showing off dance moves, reciting lines from school plays; Pulsatillas are very sociable and thrive in company!
At night, expect the Pulsatilla child to climb into bed with you. Being separated at night, for them, is too much! They fear the dark and ghosts.
You can’t talk about Pulsatilla without mentioning “crying”–pretty much what they’re famous for. It’s a pathetic cry, not a cross/angry cry like that of Chamomilla. Their cry says, “Please help me” and “poor me”. This is what they’re known for; but, here’s the thing to remember about Pulsatilla–he or she is easily reassured! If you pick the Pulsatilla child up and reassure him, the crying will stop and he’ll feel better; and he won’t dwell on the matter the way other remedies, such as Nat-mur., will. He will perk up right away!
This remedy is gentle, yielding, affectionate, eager to please, dependent, emotional and very needy. Pulsatillas do not hold back their emotions. When Pulsatilla children are under stress, they will regress. They may want to nurse again and otherwise act like a baby.
Some physical symptoms of Pulsatilla:
*Warm rooms aggravate! They’re much better out in the fresh air. Even if they’re chilly, they will still be worse in a warm stuffy room.
*Usually thirstless, especially when you would expect a person to be thirsty, like during a fever or when the mouth is dry.
*Thick, bland discharges; yellow or green.
*Complaints are worse at twilight/evening.
*Changeable symptoms. Think of how the Pulsatilla flower is tossed and turned by the wind every which way; hence, Pulsatilla symptoms can appear to be all over the map–the pain is here, now it’s over there…the discharge changes colors; the menstrual cycle is irregular, the moods change suddenly, and so on.
*Ailments from fatty foods–the fat of meat, cheese, too much ice cream.
*Hormonal changes make them emotional.
*Walking in open air ameliorates their complaints.
*Cold applications ameliorate.
*The childhood diseases
That’s about it! See ya next time!