K.A.: Can she be sad without being angry?
M.: Yes. With the angry, she writes me notes that she wants a hug. I do try and approach her and give her a hug, but if you make the slightest, not to her satisfaction, then she will just get even angrier.
K.A.: What does she say when she is like that then? That if it doesn’t go the way she wants it to go?
M.: When she gets angry, she will just scream at me, that I’m not doing it right, or I didn’t do it early enough.
(We see one side of her behaviour i.e. her demanding nature: “I’m not getting what I expect”, reflects the instability of the halogens on the RHS of the row)
I do the warnings, that if you continue to scream at me I will leave the room. Then she will continually scream at me until it stops and I will try and leave the room and she will hang on to me.
(Here we see the other side of her behaviour: the clinging, “I need you”, dependency seen on the LHS of the row)
K.A.: Anything else which makes her anxious or uptight?
M.: She has a definite view on how things should be…I’m too random, she’s logical. She sees things in a distinct pattern. It would be the blocks, if I didn’t put the blocks away in the certain pattern they were supposed to be, she would have these temper tantrums. If I am not doing something that she perceives the right way she will get frustrated and angry.
Lastly, her appetite is large, her mother saying that she constantly needs to eat; she has a number of food allergies, she is very restless, constantly needing to be amused doing something with her mother.
Rx: Natrum Iodatum 1M once per day for 4 days.
Follow-ups after remedy:
Her mother immediately noticed that her tantrums started to settle. She became calmer and was more accepting when her mother said “no”. Even when she would be expected to have a tantrum, they didn’t eventuate. When a tantrum did occur, they gradually became shorter and shorter in duration. She became less clingy and not needing to be around her mother as much.
The remedy was repeated periodically over a nine-month period. She was also given Nat iod 30 when she developed an acute tonsillitis and cough/cold that also helped her recover. The frequency of developing sore throats also diminished. The foods she was previously sensitive to are now not causing her any more problems.
Analysis of the case:
Her main concern is that her needs are not being met (Sankaran’s Row 3: care, love and nourishment). What she wants she does not get. Her response is to have a tantrum. She complains that her sister gets what she wants but she does not. Her reaction is not to behave as though she is in competition with her sister (so there is no animal-type of response), but to argue that she does not get to have her choices responded to (Row 3). This makes her sad (Natrum – Scholten) and her response is to have a tantrum, a very childish – column one (Natrum) type of behaviour.
Her dreams also reflect the sense of loss. We see her mother, the person who she is dependent on and who is supposed to care for her is taken away – this is a similar experience at home with her mother not giving her enough attention. It is like the monster (Kira) has played a trick and has taken mummy away. Sankaran points out that Natrum is dependent on someone else to take care, love and nurture him or her. This was apparent as this girl who is lost without her mother and compensates by needing to be around her all the time.
Her feelings of being let down and disappointment suggest issues related to the Halogen group. The intensity of her reactions, the violent nature of her anger, her restlessness and increased appetite lead to Iodum.
Iodum: they have to face new situations (Row 5) alone that feels dangerous whereby they can feel threatened, betrayed and cannot depend on anybody. They feel that the person who is supposed to show or guide them is either not there or has turned against them.
- Very logical
- Sees things in distinct patterns
Column One Themes:
- Clingy, dependant on mother
- Childish manner
- Tantrums – infancy to now i.e. she has not grown out of this pattern
Row Three Themes:
- I don’t get what I want
- I don’t get to choose
- I want a cuddle and don’t get – (Issues to be cared for)
- “Mummy tells, not me” (I am dependant on you to tell me who I am)
- Disappointment, let down by those they are dependent on
- Alone, isolated
- Violent, striking, angry
- Constant appetite
- Restless, always on the move
Materia Medica for Nat Iod
There are no proving details for this remedy.
The initial picture we have for this was from Scholten who suggests:
“That one is alone in your fight for your existence”.
This is interesting when we see the types of situations and reactions that occur for this child.